Love this. I have set bridges on fire and razed them to the ground. I have withdrawn manuscripts because of unfair contacts, because I refuse to be published by men only editorial boards, because a publisher refuses to acknowledge his white privilege. I have received so many scoldy emails and messages from men because I centre and support voices that are systematically excluded from canons. I have been called a bully on social media by men. Men have attempted to intimidate me through publicly shaming me for my honesty about sex. And when I don't centre them they tell me it is bad for my "poetry career." It's such bullshit. I will gladly burn bridges of the patriarchy. I am not interested in being part of their hierarchy.
This is great advice! A lot of it definitely resonates. #2 Fear of Rejection is something I struggle with — not only with writing — but in all areas of my life. I am really trying to let go of that. I also have anxiety about burning bridges. In example, I took a new job about six weeks ago and the people have been so nice and kind but the commute is killing me… I applied to a couple other places but confrontation is my nemesis and I did not want to tell these people who spent time and money training me that I was quitting. But if I don't, I’ll be punishing myself. I need to figure that one out ASAP.
I have always been aware that writing as a career would likely never be lucrative so I have other jobs. I would love to defy the odds but I’m well aware that's not realistic. Not only that but I have been raising my kids for 23 years which makes writing nearly impossible. I have four children and my baby is ten so I’m only recently getting back into it. It’s not great but it gives me a sense of purpose. I write because I enjoy it. I flip furniture and build and decorate dollhouses too. If I’m not creating something, I feel lost and incomplete.
Love this. I have set bridges on fire and razed them to the ground. I have withdrawn manuscripts because of unfair contacts, because I refuse to be published by men only editorial boards, because a publisher refuses to acknowledge his white privilege. I have received so many scoldy emails and messages from men because I centre and support voices that are systematically excluded from canons. I have been called a bully on social media by men. Men have attempted to intimidate me through publicly shaming me for my honesty about sex. And when I don't centre them they tell me it is bad for my "poetry career." It's such bullshit. I will gladly burn bridges of the patriarchy. I am not interested in being part of their hierarchy.
This is amazing! Thanks for sharing.
This is great advice! A lot of it definitely resonates. #2 Fear of Rejection is something I struggle with — not only with writing — but in all areas of my life. I am really trying to let go of that. I also have anxiety about burning bridges. In example, I took a new job about six weeks ago and the people have been so nice and kind but the commute is killing me… I applied to a couple other places but confrontation is my nemesis and I did not want to tell these people who spent time and money training me that I was quitting. But if I don't, I’ll be punishing myself. I need to figure that one out ASAP.
I have always been aware that writing as a career would likely never be lucrative so I have other jobs. I would love to defy the odds but I’m well aware that's not realistic. Not only that but I have been raising my kids for 23 years which makes writing nearly impossible. I have four children and my baby is ten so I’m only recently getting back into it. It’s not great but it gives me a sense of purpose. I write because I enjoy it. I flip furniture and build and decorate dollhouses too. If I’m not creating something, I feel lost and incomplete.
Thanks for sharing! Commuting is very hard! I wish you the best in your decision! That is a tough one!